Okay, I'm going to give everyone a little tip about helping. Just so that its clear; crystal, completely, absolutely clear. If you are going to help someone, they must actually WANT to be helped. You cannot force someone to accept your help, regardless of how much you do, in fact, want to. You have to allow them to accept your help, and be adamant about the situation at hand. If you extend the hand of assistance, and it is taken but there is some sort of distraction involved, then obviously they are not committed to changing their situation and wish to remain in their current state. If they refuse the hand all together, maybe someday they will wake up and realize that it was a kind gesture, not an act of revulsion. Simply put:
If you try and help someone and its BLATANTLY obvious that they don't want or need your help, know when to step off. Or else you ll drain yourself and end up resenting that situation all together.
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